What to do if he hasn’t texted you back! It’s 2018, get savvy!

A guy hasn’t texted in a couple of days and you are freaking out about what to do. Ghosting is not exactly a fun situation. Nope! It’s actually an extremely horrible thing to deal with. You don’t understand what went wrong exactly.

All you know is, you felt like things were going in a good direction before and you might have even gone on a few dates or hung out a lot… but never made anything official or decided to be exclusively dating.

The point is… things are fresh enough to the point where you are really worried that 

"you accidentally made some kind of mistake or did something wrong that made him vanish."

You might even be over-analyzing the situation and talking to your friends about it trying to figure out what to do in order to remedy the situation and “fix things.”

First of all… I want to start off by saying.... STOP!!!

Just stop with the mindset that you need to “fix things”. By trying to fix things, what you actually end up doing is spending a lot of time worrying about
1.  What to do
and
2. What not to do.

This worrying makes you drive yourself

 C.R.A.Z.Y

thinking of scenarios that could have happened…
Worrying about what potential scenario could have happened will then make you feel desperate and like you have to do something super fast to make him like you again. 
For Fuck Sake!

 The problem with this entire mindset and train of thought is that you actually end up sabotaging your shot with this guy when you fixate on how to solve some problem you feel you created.

Here’s Why He Hasn’t Texted You:

There are many reasons he might not have texted back.

1.He could simply be busy. Or he could be worried that if he starts the texting conversation that he will end up having to go back and forth with you all day. Many guys do not want to get into a long winded conversation that lasts all day. This is a big difference between men and women, the way that texting is viewed. So one thing you can do is to realize that you might have over-estimated the nature of what it is you have with him.
*Side note: There are 24 hours in day and if he can't spare 1 minute (which is 60 seconds out of 86400 seconds in the day) he ain't really feeling you boo!**

2. There is a possibility that his lack of a response is because… well, he is not interested in pursuing something further with you.

See previous point above

I know this is not fun to accept or to acknowledge, but it is certainly a possibility that he is simply not interested and trying to let you down gently. 

"I’m not trying to sound harsh or to hurt you."

I’m trying to give you the honest truth about the situation. I know that giving you something that sounds nice but doesn’t help you is way worse than telling you the truth, or even worse than saying nothing at all.

It might be painful to hear now, but a blunt truth is always better than a sweet sounding lie. 

What kind of mindset should you take moving forward?

Don’t Have Expectations About the Relationship

This is a huge mistake that so many women make when it comes to this specific kind of situation (a man suddenly not responding and ghosting on you).

Having expectations will only lead to disappointment. If you have an idea of what you want to have happen with him in your mind already, anything he does or does not do will be something you over-analyze and fixate about.

Fixating does nothing but create more problems and actually drives men away. The reason is because fixating gives off a needy vibe.

" When you give off a needy vibe, you end up making him feel suffocated and it kills his attraction toward you."

Instead of being needy, focus on shifting your mindset. One simple mindset shift will make it so that you go from making it unlikely that he will text you back… to maximizing the chances that he will.

Also realize and accept that it is definitely possible that he is not interested anymore. If this is the case, simply accept it… move forward and do not take it personally. His opinion of you means nothing about you as a person!

*Please read this paragraph again and don't stop till you believe it!*

It is better to truly give up on a situation and let things unfold as they may. This will actually make it so that you 

"automatically give off an attractive vibe to not just this guy but men in general."- Yasssss Bitch!

Truly letting go and accepting that no matter what, if any man does not respond, it will be OK is going to make you come off without the relationship sabotaging neediness that kills so many potential relationships.

So once you drop the neediness, think about life this way: be as happy as you can in your own life. If you focus on your happiness, it will come across in everything you do and say. 

So What Should You Avoid Doing?

One thing you can do in this situation is you can text him once and just see if he responds. If he ignores one text that doesn’t necessarily mean he’s not interested he could simply be busy or have intended to respond to the text but never got around to it. 

But if you send another text and be still doesn’t reply… he might be giving you a hint and you should stop texting him… 

DO NOT send him sad faces (not saying you would ever do this)  😉

Don’t continue to worry and fixate and write him long paragraphs trying to “understand” what went wrong.

If he isn’t responding after two or more texts it is very likely that he is “ignoring you” on purpose. I hate to use that word but it’s the best way to put it. It isn’t because he’s a bad person or because he’s trying to hurt you…

If anything, he’s trying to avoid hurting your feelings.

Either way, focusing on one guy is only going to lead to heartbreak (and unconsciously push him away from you).

The absolute best thing to do when a guy isn’t texting you back is

...simply to move on and keep your heart open to other people.... 

When you do that, you show yourself as a woman who demands respect (because she has respect for herself), and you automatically attract the kind of man who will show you that respect.

Remember, focusing on one guy is going to trip you up. 

If you’re not getting what you need from the guy you’re with, the best thing to do is open your mind and heart to other partners, to find the person who’s right for you.